Dating is a fun and exciting time, but there’s no getting around it—first dates can stress us out. If you are lucky enough to know the person a bit ahead of time, it helps. But more often than not, dates consist of two strangers meeting up. There are some helpful first date do’s and don’ts you should know to make the date go smoothly and leave you feeling it was worth your while.
Preparing for Your First Date
Great! You scheduled a date with someone you are hopefully excited to meet. First impressions are important, so get prepared with these thoughts in mind.
Do you have a plan? At some point, you probably both decided to do your part in the date planning or one of you kindly took over. Either way, be sure you know who is picking up who, if you are meeting at a designated spot, and where you are going.
Dress for Success but don’t overdo it. You want to look your best to make a great first impression. Make sure you dress for the occasion, whether that involves being outdoors, indoors, formal, or casual. Dress accordingly and look like you made an effort. Wear something that makes you feel good.
Now your date is rolling and hopefully going well. Conversation is often a tell-tale sign as to whether or not a second date will be happening. Keep conversation light unless you have really hit it off and it just naturally flows into something else.
It is a good idea to not discuss politics on your first date. If the relationship continues you, will absolutely need to understand where your new partner stands politically. However, on a first date, hold off on what can be a sensitive subject.
Enjoy getting to know the basics. You’ll know within minutes of conversation if you want to schedule a get to know you more date soon.
Remember Your Manners
Good manners seem like an obvious thought for a first date. Of course, you will be on your best behavior. But when it comes to things like who is going to pay, it can get awkward. The polite thing to do is at least offer to split the bill. If your date insists, don’t argue the kind offer. Just politely thank them.
It’s an old-fashioned thought, but when a man and woman are on a date it is still quite customary for the man to reach for his wallet first. As a woman, you can then offer to help out. If he’s smart, he will quickly and politely decline.
Each situation is different. Go with your gut. Either way, a “thank you” and a smile go a long way.
Have fun dating and don’t feel discouraged if the first date doesn’t work out. Stick with the first date do’s and don’ts you should know and eventually, Mister or Miss right will come along.